I have started writing this post so many times.
I want this to be a positive message to anyone out there in the same position – trying to navigate the difficult waters of your 20’s.
The most valuable thing anyone has ever told me about this time in my life was “stop pretending like you know what you’re doing and actually take the time to figure it out”.
I spent most of 2017-2018 figuring out what was going to work for me. I tried capsule wardrobes and no-spend Septembers. I purged so many things in my house and began living my version of “minimal”. I found processes and organizing tips that worked for me and many more that didn’t. I’m at a stage in my life where I’m not afraid to try something and absolutely fail at it. As long as I’m learning something from it, I enjoy it, I explore it and I move forward.
I’ve been growing exponentially in my personal life, learning so many new things about myself and what really works for me. I like who I’m becoming. A lot.
I figured out what I didn’t like and what was most important to me. Learning to choose between getting the laundry done and taking time to snuggle on the couch once Cooper went to bed. I learned to sacrifice and I learned to ask for help. I found that I was stronger when I admitted that I didn’t have it all together. That my friends came to me for advice because they knew I’d tell them the honest truth and never would pretend to be something I wasn’t. I found uniqueness and originality when I stopped playing the comparison games and just did what I loved to the best of my ability. I learned to know that my timeline is just that, mine. That my success rests on my shoulders and what I want to accomplish. If I want to be a successful blogger, it’s not for the money, it’s not for the attention, it’s because I want to help. I want to be the sounding board as a woman who is facing a lot more than I expected at 27. A woman who has walked through the tough seasons and is out on the other side, for now. A woman who is strong and willing to admit that she’s strong, not to discredit the men around her, but to let them know that she can stand just as tall as they can. My man is fully aware that we will BOTH be successful and that there is added strength in relationships when you support one another. I am finally growing into my own skin, and man, does it feel good. Life doesn’t have to be stressful but make sure to always wake up and do all that you can do, and that should be quite enough for you, my dear.